Some Advice for Peter and Jen (from someone who's never had kids, but knows people who do)

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Sleeping like a baby actually means you get up every few hours all night long. Try alternating nights when it's your turn to get up. Molly might still wake you up a bit, but if you know the other parent is handling it, you can go back to sleep easier before you wake up all the way.

Don't work so much you hardly ever see your child. You know you're trying to provide for her future, but she only knows you're not there.

Start saving for her college now. When you're done with that, help her start saving for her retirement. The economy is only going to get worse over the long term, despite occassional upswings or bubbles to the contrary.

A happy loving childhood can make a huge difference in how a person sees and interacts with the world when they're an adult.

The younger a human is, the faster they learn (and the more they need to learn). Children see *everything* and there's absolutely no telling how much or which things they'll remember. You are their first introduction to this existence...what is done at home is presumed to be typical of what is done by humans beings everywhere. It's best to have a good reason *why* she shouldn't do anything in particular that you do in front of her that she shouldn't do, too. Having good reasons is vastly easier, however, than doing everything perfectly.

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Taking turns is a thing of beauty when it comes to getting up with baby.
Even more wonderful and joyous is when the man, even when it isn't "his turn", gets up with the baby. Studies show that even when families take turns, the man typically sleeps through his turn more often than not. Personal experience concurrs, but the man I was with at the time was a bit of a jerk, so who knows.